Marriage Coaching vs. Counseling: How To Choose?

Wondering how to decide between coaching and marriage counseling?

If you are in pain in your marriage, chances are you've been advised to try marriage counseling. Most people haven't even heard that there's another option.

The Bible actually has quite a bit to say about this that can help guide our decision.

2 Timothy 1:7 says, "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind." So often, marriage counseling is initiated out of a place of fear. When as a wife that fear is faced, the real journey of restoring intimacy begins.

In Phillippians 4:8, we are told to focus on "Whatever is good." Many marriage counseling scenarios involve listing out a "record of wrongs," which 1 Corinthians 13:5 warns against.

In 1 Peter 3, we are told that wives can win over husbands "without discussion." The Bible actually does lay out a specific path to restore marriage from the wife's side.

In Joshua 1:6, we are told to "be strong and courageous," taking personal responsibility that our family makes it to the Promised Land.

Matthew 7:3-5 tells us to "take the log out of our own eye," and not focus on whatever our spouse is or is not doing right.

When James asks in James 4:1 "What causes fights and quarrels among you," he is showing that transformation always lies in allowing God to change our heart.

What Paul says in Ephesians 5:23 "the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church," should give us pause as wives if we are the ones initiating marriage counseling. If our husbands are initiating it, let us follow their leadership joyfully and praise their leadership while doing so.

Ephesians 4:29; Proverbs 18:21 tell us to speak life, not death. Marriage counseling all too often involves a false belief that airing grievances is beneficial. This belief originates in secular psychology, not the Bible.

These principles will work whether true in marriage counseling or relationship coaching. They are the foundation that Easy Biblical Marriage is built on.

The world says all is lost if your husband won't go to counseling. I think it represents a unique opportunity - one that can create more generational transformation.

I'd love to hop on a one hour free consultation call with you and explain exactly what this would look like in your situation.