What are the Six Intimacy Skills?

The Six Intimacy Skills, if you’ve never heard of them, are the secrets Laura Doyle learned from women who had happy marriages.

I used them to save my own marriage and then I went on a mission to bring these Biblical principles to my sisters in Christ. I've helped hundreds of women implement them to restore intimacy and fun, even in hopeless marriages.

I'm part of a worldwide movement that's twenty years old. And now you are, too!

Now, I’m on a mission to change Christian culture to have a better divorce rate like we should by getting these skills into the hands of every woman who wants to make her marriage last and thrive.

There are simple, practical things you can do to create the gratifying, exhilarating, addicting experience of being loved every day, just for being yourself.

But how?

Probably not the way you think. It sure wasn’t what I thought either. You know how it says in The Chosen "get used to different?" Let's dive in to learning what these powerful skills are!

Replenish Your Spirit. This one is fun! This is where you become the Girl of Fun and Light that your husband first fell in love with. You may have forgotten about your fun and light side because you have a lot of responsibilities. But it turns out having fun, really making yourself happy every day, is an indispensable first step to having a happy relationship. That means having frivolous fun every day. You may be thinking, “Who has time for that?” I’m all about showing you some practical steps to take to help you work that in today.

Receiving Graciously. If you feel like your husband doesn’t give you gifts, compliments, help or apologies, we’re going to cover how to change that up. Just reach out to me at [email protected] and I'd be more than happy to give you some fun homework for this one!

Relinquishing inappropriate control of your husband’s life. You have found has a world-famous system for trusting your husband to be responsible, and the magic is that when you use the system, your husband will respond to you differently—he’ll show up with more respect and enthusiasm and take more initiative. I'm always sharing examples of how this skill changed my life on my podcast.

Refocusing your view with gratitude. This is the most powerful Intimacy Skill of all because it does double duty. It not only changes your perception because you’re focused on what you want more of instead of what you don’t want, it also changes the way people respond to you as they feel more appreciated. I’ll give you the practical steps to enjoy the benefits of this skill in your relationship in my reels on instagram. 

Revealing your heart with vulnerability is about taking a soft approach instead of an authoritative one to nurture the connection between you. I’m going to teach you the language of vulnerability and show you how to bring it into your relationship and why it’s indispensable for an intimate relationship.

Restoring respect for your husband and his decisions for his life. If you’re feeling like you don’t respect your husband right now, don’t worry. You are not alone. That’s how most women feel prior to learning the Intimacy Skills. I’m also going to clarify what respect looks like to men, which is very different than what women think of as respect. This is one of my favorite topics, so if you are following along with my work, I share my experience of what this looks like all the time.

There are so many free resources that are designed to equip you with these skills! Plus I love to talk about them. Reach out to me at [email protected] and I'd be more than happy to talk about what your best next step is.